Beyond Your Own Stories – Back to Who You Truly Are
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No Temples. Forget the incense and the mantras. Drop your stories, step out of your comfort zone, and feel the horse beneath you come alive. That’s where the road back to yourself begins.
A horse doesn’t care about your looks, your status, or your words. It sees right through you, past the mask you’ve been wearing for years. It feels your breath, your tension, your intent. It doesn’t judge — but it always responds with honesty.
The moment you let go of your old stories, loosen your grip, and become truly present, everything changes. The horse moves with you — not because you’re holding the reins, but because you’re both looking in the same direction.
That moment — when you feel the horse beneath you come alive — is not a trick. It’s the reminder that your real strength was always there. No temple, no mantra, no guru can do that for you. Only you, here and now.
You’re Not Broken – You Just Need a Reset
Most people think change starts with a grand gesture: quitting your job, moving countries, traveling the world. But real transformation doesn’t start at an airport or in a temple. It starts somewhere much closer — inside your own head.
You’re not broken. You don’t need to be “fixed” or “enlightened.” What you need is not a spiritual makeover, but a reset — back to what’s always been in you. Beyond your personality.
Your Personality: The Vehicle, Not the Destination
A lot of people mistake their personality for who they truly are. But it’s not a fixed truth — it’s a temporary vehicle. Built by your family, your culture, your old wounds, and sometimes just from surviving school discos and bad relationships.
Beneath that vehicle lies your essence. Untouched. Unchanging. Independent of applause or rejection. Once you feel that again, you stop steering from fear and start steering from truth.
The Fight Within
Your biggest opponent isn’t in the ring or out on some dusty prairie. They’re between your ears. Your mind whispers things that sound like truth: “You’re not ready.” “You’ll fail.” “Why even bother?” It’s not the hard blows from the outside that stop you — it’s the quiet punches of doubt and procrastination from within.
The three most notorious opponents:
The Perfectionist – So afraid to mess up that you never really start.
The Doubter – Waits until you’re about to break through, then slams on the brakes.
The False Ego – Would rather stay comfortable than grow, clinging to the image you’ve built of yourself.
We all know them. They keep us safe — but also small.
The Truth About Growth
The biggest challenge isn’t out there. It’s in here. The part that chooses comfort over courage. That seeks distraction over confrontation. That avoids the unknown — even when that’s exactly where your freedom is.
Growth isn’t “personal growth” like the self-help books sell it. Growth is learning to be present. Kung Fu masters have always known this: every strike, every step, every stance is training in awareness. Not to create a perfect picture, but to stay standing — even when your legs are on fire.
Daily Consistency: The Quiet Place Where the Work Happens
You don’t need a life-changing breakthrough every morning when you wake up. What you do need is the guts to show up — even when you don’t feel like it, even when no one’s watching.
It’s the small, seemingly boring actions — repeated day in, day out — that rewire your brain and reshape your character into something more aligned with who you really are. No magic trick. No “one weekend and your life is different” story. Just the quiet, gritty work.
My Journey Didn’t Give Me Enlightenment
My travels took me to the Amazon, the African plains, and Asian temples. Incredible teachers, all of them.
But you know where my real “aha” moments came? Not during a sunrise ceremony, but while sitting on the toilet realizing I’d been making excuses for three days straight. Not on a mountaintop, but while folding laundry and thinking: “Maybe it’s time I stop thinking and start doing.”
That’s my path. No enlightenment. No golden aura. Just living, learning, falling, getting back up — and figuring out what works.
No Guru, No Saint
I’m not a guru. Not a holy man on a mountaintop. I still have days where I don’t feel like it. Days where I come up with a hundred excuses. Days I fool myself and get stuck in old stories.
The difference? I’m aware of it. I don’t fight it — I let it be. And then… I keep going.
Mastery isn’t about always feeling like it or performing perfectly. It’s about showing up, even when your inner slacker, your perfectionist, and your doubter are all screaming for you to sit down.
That’s not enlightenment. That’s just the work. And honestly? It works damn well.
What to Remember
You’re not broken — you just need to remember who you already are.
Your personality is the vehicle, not your essence.
Consistency beats motivation — every single time.
You can’t meditate your excuses away, but you can disarm them by starting.
Whether you’re riding into a new horizon on horseback or standing barefoot in your kitchen wondering if you’ll work out today — it’s never about the perfect moment. It’s about the guts to start… and to show up again tomorrow.
Mindset Coaching & Bodywork — No Fluff
Everything I share here isn’t theory from a book or some polished Instagram post. It’s lived. Tested in the mud, on the road, in the silence — and yeah, sometimes while folding laundry.
The way I work is simple: no gimmicks, no spiritual glitter. Just you, me, and the work that matters. Bodywork, mindset, movement, and visual storytelling — all aimed at one thing: bringing you back to your core.
If you feel it’s time to step out of those old stories and start living from your core, your truth begins with the first step. You’re always welcome to take it here in Drenthe.